I found this article in the News of the World (I know, it doesn't really sell it but bear with me!) about a year or so ago and it's by Tracey Cox who writes a lot of sex and relationship books. If you want to have a look at her work then you'll find more information on Google and Amazon. I've typed up the article word for word but unfortunately I don't have the date so I can't reference it properly. This is how the article went...
'While each and every relationship is unique, most of them move through the same love stages. Knowing what to expect, and when, can help you through potential pitfalls.
- Honeymoon: Anywhere from the first date to three months. The gooey, soppy, lovey-dovey stage. You're driven by primal urges and your brains are flooded with love and sex hormones.
- Fantasy: Around two months in. Heavy idealising is still going on. Neither of you can find fault with each other and imagine you're the rare couple who don't have any problems.
- Coupledom: Three to six months in. The bit where things start going wrong. Friends start to give true opinions, white lies get exposed. You start to see reality, rather than airbrushed versions of each other.
- Confusion: Six months to one year. Instead of focusing on good points, you now focus on each other's faults. You feel less smug. Both of you think the other has changed. You haven't - you're just seeing each other from a different perspective.
- Readjustment: One to two years in. You finally see each other as "wholes", made up of good and bad parts. If commitment's there, you start compromising.
- Commitment: Three to five years. Most will make a public statement of togetherness (marriage, kids, moving in). Real commitment based on experiences rather than fantasies.'
I hope this has been helpful and given you a little insight into how relationships progress so that you can understand what's happening and deal with the different stages as they come.
Love from lila xx
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